Positive Messages

“I’ve been reading a lot about praise lately.  More specifically, I’ve been reading a lot of opinions from people who seem to think that praise is a crutch.  Children should not be praised, they say, in order to avoid the trap of performing simply for more praise.  Children, they say, should do things just because and not to get a pat on the back.

I’m not judging.  I’m trying not to, anyway.

But this kind of negativity is hard to process.

I’ve spent my adult life working with children of all ages.  Children who lacked self-esteem.  Children who never felt validated.  Children who felt they could do no right.  I’ve spent countless hours building them back up, helping them find their strengths.

Imagine if someone had done that for them all along?…”

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About Katie

Katie Hurley is a Child, Adolescent, and Family Psychotherapist and Parenting Expert in Los Angeles, CA. She works in private practice in the South Bay area of Los Angeles, writes for PBS Parents, Washington Post Parents, and the Huffington Post. She is the author of "The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World" (Tarcher/Penguin, 2015) and the forthcoming "No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls" (Penguin Random House, 2018)