“Parenting isn’t about control.
Parenting is about guidance.
Parenting is about structure, limits, and consistency.
Parenting is about empathy.
And, above all, parenting is about unconditional love.
Parenting isn’t about control.
But yelling is.
Yelling is a function of feeling a loss of control.
Yelling happens when stress is high and emotions are heated.
Yelling happens when we can’t seem to get what we want, and we feel like we are out of options.
Yelling is a last ditch effort to regain control of a situation.
Yelling won’t get your needs met…yelling will result in hurt feelings for your child…and yelling will leave you feeling horrible…”
Please stop by Mommy Moment to continue reading, “Letting Go of Control”.
I agree fully, Katie. In fact, I have written that you gain control of your children–if indeed, you ever truly can–by letting go of trying to control them. The distinction between being domineering and guiding our children is not always clear, particularly when our parental fears are involved, but taking a moment to ask yourself “how important is it?” brings clarity.
Danny
http://www.losingcontrolfindingserenity.com