Change Is in the Air

Change is in the air.


We all feel it coming.


Some days, the change seems good.


It fills big sister with positive energy.  Confidence oozes out of her as she considers the exciting things she will learn, the possibility of being in a class with her best friend, and walking, finally walking, to school.


But some days, she feels little.  The thought of change scares her and leaves her feeling small.


She cries in my arms.


But I will miss you so much.  Every day is too much for me.


She shadows baby brother.


I hurt my knee too.  I need that attention too.


She worries.


I’m not used to it.  What if I won’t have a friend?


I remain calm and strong on the outside, because I have to.  I am her anchor, after all.


I hold her when she needs me.


It’s ok to feel small.  It’s ok to feel scared.  I know just how you feel.


I channel every ounce of patience.


I’m glad your knee is ok, but I know that you feel little right now.  Let’s help baby brother together, and then we’ll have a snuggle.


I reassure her.


It will be different at first, but I know you will love being so close to home.  Mommy can volunteer there a lot.  And your best friend will be there with you at lunch and recess, even if she’s not in your class…

Please stop by moonfrye to read more about preparing for a big transition.

About Katie

Katie Hurley is a Child, Adolescent, and Family Psychotherapist and Parenting Expert in Los Angeles, CA. She works in private practice in the South Bay area of Los Angeles, writes for PBS Parents, Washington Post Parents, and the Huffington Post. She is the author of "The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World" (Tarcher/Penguin, 2015) and "No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls" (Penguin Random House, 2018)