Dear Celebrities


Dear Celebrities,


How are you?  I hope you are enjoying the holiday season!


I have a really big favor to ask.  REALLY big.  But it’s important.  And it will be as useful to you as it will be to me, so please hear me out.




You love to use your voices for various causes.  You all have certain charities that are near and dear to you, and you help them out whenever you can. 


I love that about you.


You also tend to chime in when an important election rolls around.  You put on your freshly pressed suits and beautiful dresses.  You get your hair and makeup done.  Some of the men even shave for the occasion.  You look great.  Then you pile into your black limos and SUV’s and head over to George Clooney’s house.  Wow, does that guy know how to throw a political party.  So far I haven’t made the invitation list, but I’m sure that I would have a great time.  And some of you might even find me a little bit charming.  See you in four years.


Anyway, I know you get some criticism for these lavish parties.  They could feed a small nation, people say as you smile and man-hug the President.  I appreciate your efforts, though.  In your own celebrity way, you are looking out for all of us.  You know that change is good.  You also seem to know that with great power comes great responsibility, and you’re not afraid to be heard.


I like that about you.  When something is important, you find a way to be heard.


But other times?  You’re kind of quiet.  This something about you that leaves me scratching my head…


Many of you have children.  They are very cute, by the way.  Although I must admit, I really don’t like to see pictures of your children plastered all over those ridiculous “magazines”.  Can those cute little Affleck kids just enjoy a day at the Farmer’s Market without being photographed?  Sheesh!


But I digress.  Many of you know that parenting is not the same as it used to be.  The landscape of fear has seen a shift in this country.  Where we used to worry about getting our kids to school on time and what to pack for lunch 80 days into the school year, now we worry about getting them through the day without some horrific attack. Now we wonder how we can possibly preserve their innocence.


It’s enough to drive a mom into hiding.


Here’s where you come in:  You’ve been awfully quiet about the school shooting in Connecticut.  Sure, a few of you sent a Tweet or two…but that’s not enough.  We all did that.  We need you to use your big voices for us.  We need you to stand in support of our President and hopefully make some changes in this country.


We need you to talk about guns.  While assault rifles make sense in, say, The Bourne Identity, they don’t make sense in everyday life.  Matt Damon?  Where are you?  Please speak up.  We like you.  We like your movies.  Some of us will see absolutely any movie you make…


Please speak up.


We need you to talk about mental health.  We need you to acknowledge that our system isn’t working, and that people need help.


Scarlett Johansson?  We did not like it when that creep hacked into your files and stalked you.  We stood behind you and cheered you on when you spoke out in court.  We might not have any real power in that situation, but we don’t like it when our celebrities fear for their safety.  It’s not right.


Please speak up.


Um, Bono?  Where are YOU?  You have something to say about everything.  Everything!  And we listen.  Because, more often than not, you’re right.  You look out for the people who need big voices to speak their needs.


Please speak up.


There are so many of you out there.  You are an amazing and talented group of individuals.  I know that many of you are just as shocked and saddened by these recent events as the rest of us are.  I am sure that you are holding your kids just as tight.


Please speak up.



People listen to you.  People look up to you.  People want to hear what you have to say.


Many of you supported our President in both elections.  Many of you made your voices heard.  It’s time to use those voices again.


We watch your movies.  We tune in to see you each week on TV.  We listen to your music every chance we get.  Some of us even lecture friends and family members about downloading music.  You worked hard to make those records.  You deserve to be paid for your work!


We have faith in you when a movie flops.  Oh well, we think…the next one will be better.  And then we set aside $12 and wait to see you again. 


So please, dear celebrities, help us out in our time of need.  Help us return to a time when police officers don’t need to stand outside elementary schools every day.  Help us move mental health forward so that people can actually get treated, instead of stuck in the revolving door.  And, for the love of small children everywhere, let’s get these assault weapons out of our homes.


Dust off those soapboxes.  Borrow a microphone from Bruce Springsteen.  And please, pretty please, use your big voices.


Our children need you.


With love and thanks,


A very concerned mommy




About Katie

Katie Hurley is a Child, Adolescent, and Family Psychotherapist and Parenting Expert in Los Angeles, CA. She works in private practice in the South Bay area of Los Angeles, writes for PBS Parents, Washington Post Parents, and the Huffington Post. She is the author of "The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World" (Tarcher/Penguin, 2015) and "No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls" (Penguin Random House, 2018)