Parenting Articles Worth Checking Out…

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If I haven’t been here much, it’s because I’ve been in other places!  Below are a few recent articles that you might want to check out…

On Scary Mommy:

How Can I Make My Kid Less Stressed?

On allParenting:

New Breakthrough for Peanut Allergies

Aftermath:  How to Help Bullying Victims

And on Everyday Family:

How to Balance Work and Family

4 Ways to Help Older Siblings Adjust to a New Baby

3 Tips for Coping with a Fear of Animals

Perfectionism Versus Anxiety: How to Spot the Difference

Hope some of those come in handy, and please leave a comment if you have a topic you would like me to cover!

Parenting articles to check out…

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It’s been busy around here lately!  Between my work at allParenting and Everyday Family and the book that has a deadline quickly approaching…I’ve been a little quiet.  So I thought I would share a few articles of interest in case you missed them along the way.

Head over to allParenting for these…

The Great Barbie Debate – is it really just about a doll?  No way.

Do Teens Lack Empathy? – Well, no, but it’s important to think about ways to build empathy.

No Rules for Recess – This is REALLY interesting.  You have to see what a school in NZ did.  The results are amazing.

Parenting Style and Internet Addiction – Super interesting research here, and important for kids of all ages.

Parenting Style and Childhood Obesity – More important research on how kids cope and, more importantly, how parents model coping skills.

I’ve overwhelmed you with enough for one day!  Thanks for sticking with me through the busy writing process.  I will try to continue to post here as much as possible during the next four months as I meet deadlines and strive toward writing you a book that inspires happiness in little ones.  If I’m quiet here, it’s because I’m loud just about everywhere else!  More from Everyday Family later this week.

Happy Wednesday!

On raising awareness…

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October is a month of many causes, and one of them is bullying.  I can write another post citing statistics.  I can talk about prevention, coping, and taking responsibility.  And I can beg you take cyberbullying seriously…but the truth is that bullying is a community problem – a national problem, really – that requires far more discussion and action than I can provide right here, right now.

That doesn’t mean that I’m burying my head in the sand.  I’m not.  I’m working with my daughter’s school, because sometimes you have to start small.  There is no true bullying prevention strategy in place at this time.  There never has been.  So I’m starting the conversation and getting other parents involved.  Because you have to start somewhere.

I’m talking with other writers and professionals about cyberbullying, the downsides of technology, and the dangers of texting.  And I’m not referring to distracted driving.

And I’m doing my best to raise awareness about the best ways to help kids cope when they do face bullying.  Because childhood and suicide are two words that do not belong in the same sentence.

Do bullying prevention programs work?  At the moment, the results are mixed.  But there are a few things that do work:

Teaching kindness

Teaching empathy

Strong family bonds

and…

Active parenting

With that in mind, I have a few articles for you to read this week.

Childhood depression is on the rise, and it is essential to understand the signs and symptoms and to know how to help.  Head over to Everyday Family for more on Understanding Childhood Depression.

Bullying happens.  We can talk prevention programs until we’re blue in the face, but we have to deal with what is happening right now.

Head over to Everyday Family for What to Do if Your Child is Bullied.

And over on allParenting this week, 5 Bully Busters.  There you will find symptoms of bullying and strategies to help your child.

Keep talking.  The moment we become complacent is the moment that we truly begin to fail our kids.

Be proactive.  Talk to your kids.  Talk to other parents.  Get involved with the school.  Do your part to help zero tolerance become a reality.

 

 

Coping with Childhood Anxiety

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The first two months of a new school year are full of transition.  New teacher.  New classroom. New friends in the classroom.  New schedule.  New expectations.

For kids who love routine, all of this new stuff can really shake things up.

Kids who are prone to anxiety tend to struggle with big transitions, and a new school year is BIG.

That said, I have a couple of articles for you that relate to childhood anxiety:

For those of you wondering why your older children are struggling with separation anxiety at school and just how long it might last, please head over to Everyday Family and check out 5 Tips for Helping Kids Cope with Separation Anxiety.

And for those of you concerned about social anxiety and wondering how to help your kids with the discomfort that accompanies it, please stop by allParenting and check out “What is social anxiety in kids?

I hope these articles help with your little worries.  Please feel free to send topics my way by stopping by my Facebook Page!

The Thing About Toddler Fashion

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When we let our kids choose their own clothes, they experience greater self-confidence, feel independent, and learn some responsibility.  When we don’t…well, let’s just say those things take a little longer.

Stop by allParenting today to read more about Toddler Fashion Police and see what some other moms think about it.

Parenting articles of the week…

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It was a busy week around here – around everywhere, really.  As much as I try to introduce each article individually, some weeks fly by before I even have a chance to let you know what I’ve been writing about.  This was one of those weeks!

So here goes…

Over at allParenting

If you missed this story about Bailey O’Neill, the little boy who recently died after sustaining serious injuries at the hands of his bullies, you need to read it. While the family is still waiting to hear if the direct attack that left him with a a fractured nose and severe concussion is what led to the seizures that ultimately left him on life support, I can tell you this:  The seizures began after the attack on the playground.  Either way, we need a revolution.  Schools need to do better.  Parents and schools need to work together.  Please stop by and read about Bailey and what we can do to put a stop to bullying.

If you worry that child lacks the ability to assert herself, you’ll want to read this article.  As much as we need to teach our kids to be empathic, kind, and respectful, we also need to teach them how to assert their needs.  It took me a very long time to find my voice, and I can only hope that my kids find theirs sooner in life.  While my tendency to advocate for myself doesn’t always sit well with others, I try my best to assert my needs in a calm and respectful way – and I model this to my children every chance I get.  Stop by and check this article on teaching assertiveness skills.

Over at Everyday Family

Little kids have big feelings and coping with frustration is hard work.  Stop by and check out 6 Ways to Help Children Cope with Frustration to learn a few strategies.  Your kids will thank you!

And…from crazy skinny dolls to mixed messages in the media, little girls are struggling with body image at a very young age these days.  Stop by to see how you can help your daughter develop and maintain a healthy body image.

I hope you enjoyed a lovely weekend, and hopefully some of this helps your family in some small way!

Until next time…

Confident Kids and Tweens on Instagram

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I don’t want to overwhelm you with articles this week…so I have a couple of choices for you over at allParenting!

If your kids are on the younger side, you might want to read about raising confident kids.  Self-confidence is linked to better school performance, better social skills, and more reciprocal relationships. Please head over there for a few tips on building self-confidence.

And if you have a tween on your hands…particularly a tween with access to Instagram – you’ll want to read this article about online bullying specific to Instagram.  It’s getting messy on Instagram, parents – do not bury your head in the sand on this one!

On Gun Control…

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I don’t know about you, but I am tired of listening to the arguments.  I’m tired of immature Facebook and Twitter “conversations” about gun control and violence.

I am disturbed by the fact that a little boy remains captive in a bunker after being abducted from his school bus by a man who shot the bus driver to death on the spot.  I can’t stand that the little boy is crying out for his parents, and all they can do is pray.  Not to mention the fact that the little boy has Asperger’s and ADHD, and his parents are now dependent upon his captor to administer his medications.

This is the world we live in.

Some days, I stop talking.  I can’t stand the Facebook negativity from people who value guns above children.  I’m tired of hearing about the 2nd Amendment and the right to bear arms.

So I sit back…

But I can’t do that.  I can’t remain silent.

Because that sweet little smiling face up there?  Is one third of my everything.  I owe it to him to fight harder.  I owe it to his sister.  I owe it to my husband. I owe it to every child I’ve ever worked with and I owe it to every parent who has faced unspeakable loss at the hands of a gun.  Any gun.

Moms are a force to be reckoned with.  Moms, when they work together, make things happen.

I’m over at allParenting today sharing my thoughts on gun violence and gun reform.  Please stop by and share your thoughts.

Moms can make a difference.

Good Sports and Poor Choices

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I was a very competitive athlete as a kid.  As in scary competitive.  I wanted to win.  I wanted to score.  Most of all, I wanted to be playing.  It was what I did when I didn’t have my nose buried in F. Scott Fitzgerald.

I was a nerd-athlete.

But as much as I liked to win, I always knew the value of being a good sport.  I went to a prep school that valued good sportsmanship and personal conduct.  But it wasn’t just that.  I never once had the urge to cheat.  It just never occurred to me.

Lance Armstrong cheated.  He cheated, he lied, he lashed out at his accusers and, even in his admission of guilt, he didn’t seem terribly remorseful.  Lance Armstrong is not a good sport.  There are endless reasons for his choices, but none of those reasons make his choices legitimate.

Here’s the thing:  I think that, as parents, we can learn a lot from this.  We can work together to build a better generation of athletes, if we so choose.

I’m over at allParenting today discussing this very topic.  Please stop by and check out Lessons from Lance when you get a chance.

Big News: Joining the allParenting Team!

Coffee + Smart Water = Freelance essentials!

Coffee + Smart Water = Freelance essentials!

I’ve been holding in some very exciting news for quite a while now.

If it seems like I haven’t been writing much here, it’s because big things are happening…

We all know that I love to write about all things parenting, mental health, child development, and infertility, right?  So what better place for me to freelance than allParenting – an online magazine from the incredible people behind SheKnows?

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I just love the very talented team over there.  Nichole and Laura are positively incredible…I have admired them and looked up to them since I began this blogging journey.  And the writers?  Amazing.  You will find advice, recipes, support, a laugh or two…you name it – it’s there.  While I will continue to write here as much as possible, I truly hope that you will join me over there.

And I encourage you to register, hang out a while, and get to know the other writers.  I’m quite certain that you will love it!

My first article just went live!  Please stop by and read about working moms and Sunday night blues.  I can’t wait to see you there!